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by gemster
(51 posts)
9 years ago

ok i feel stupid so please be nice

I go to a music school every saturday and one of the seesions they run is this awesome stage band. My inspiration for starting sax was hearing them play at a concert! I already sing for them, but now I'm good enough to join but I am just too nervous/ scared of joining! It's really weird because most of them I know and am friends with, last week one of the guys told me I should stay but I couldn't (I sound stupid but that's how it really is). Has anyone got any advice on confidence? I think one of the reasons is because I don't feel like I'm needed, the band has 8 altos, 3 flutes, 4 trumpets, a bone, and two tenors. I also play tenor to the same standard as the second tenor, I dont know if there is a third tenor part, but would I have any use there? Help please! : D

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  1. by clamness
    (13 posts)

    6 years ago

    Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

    read "effortless mastery" by kenny werner, it will change your life, and it's a quick read available through aebersold

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  2. by wkusax87
    (12 posts)

    6 years ago

    Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

    Practice in front of people. End of story. This will get rid of stage fright

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  3. by scarter6
    (9 posts)

    4 years ago

    Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

    try the inner game of music. all of my professors recommended it when I was an undergrad

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  4. by barisax999
    (400 posts)

    9 years ago

    Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

    there is no key to confidence, nothing we can say to help you gain confidence. but, every time you do something that requires confidence you will gain it. and unfortunately, you will fall on your face a lot of the time, but there is nothing you can do but get back up. everybody falls, do not fear falling or you will never go up.

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    1. by chiamac
      (586 posts)

      9 years ago

      Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

      speech class, talk infront of people, play infront of people often, know what you're doing. =)

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      1. by Sax Mom
        (964 posts)

        9 years ago

        Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

        It is not stupid to be shy. And I disagree with a previous responder, you do not necessarily fall on your face "a lot of the time." If you do happen to fall on your face, you may get a bruised nose, but bruised noses heal. Ask the director/coordinator of the band where he/she prefers you to be. With 8 altos and only 2 tenors, I know I would prefer to join in where I don't get lost in the crowd (on tenor). But then, Tenor doesn't get quite as much opportunity to shine. If youre shy, though, it may be an easier place to start. I encourage you to stay, play a little, and if you're uncomfortable, play just a little more. You don't probably have to stay for the entire session if it's too draining the first time. You've been invited. Accept the invitation, and see where it leads. You'll do fine.

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        1. by gemster
          (51 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          thanks everyone. I'll try and go play next saturday! Thanks for your advice and encouragement, I should probably try not to get so worked up about stuff.....I think its mainly in my mind that I have the problem. If i fall on my face, at least i will have a cool bruise to show off, heheh.. =)

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        2. by barisax999
          (400 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          bare your scars with pride

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        3. by gemster
          (51 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          I will! Although I am getting slightly nervous as Saturday draws closer. I am a total wimp. I should get a badge.

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        4. by Sax Mom
          (964 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          At least you've got a thumbs up from us!

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        5. by gemster
          (51 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          =D At least i will have shoulders to cry on.... hehehe! It's not like they're gonna eat me now, is it?

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        6. by barisax999
          (400 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          i hate to tell ya, but they may. some musicians are total jerks. but dont let them get to you

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        7. by gemster
          (51 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          Well..... They didnt eat me. I didnt embarrass myself in any way. I had an AWESOME time!! Thankyou all so much for your support and encouragement. Seriously I wouldnt have done it if you hadnt told me to stop being a wimp. : D xxx

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        8. by Sax Mom
          (964 posts)

          9 years ago

          Re: ok i feel stupid so please be nice

          Great news, Gemster! Keep it up! Next time will be that much easier (not the music, but the courage)!

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